love and tender

when the only thing they ask is love and tenderness

we are their only hope

usually these victims will remains silent because of traumatic experienced
and they will choose to solve it by themselves ecspecially when the predators are the person they knew or trust
so.we have to build trust in order to make them talk
be friends and be a good listener
because sometimes..we are the only person they have

punish them

feeling like kicking those criminals by myself...haiyaaa!!!

how long can we remains silent?

together we prevent

Sexual abuse effects on children and youth can be evident in emotional, physical and behavioural ways. These effects can be just as devastating whether there was only one occurrence or there were repeated occurrences. Sexual abuse cannot be compared, because each abuse experience is unique.

Vulnerability Factors:

Children are vulnerable to sexual abuse because of their age, sizeand innocence. When a child or youth is molested, she/he learns that adults cannot be trusted for care and protection: well-being is disregarded, and there is a lack of support and protection. These lead to grief, depression, extreme dependency, inability to judge trustworthiness in others, mistrust, anger and hostility. And as if all that isn't enough, children's bodies often respond to the sexual abuse, bringing on shame and guilt.

Points to consider:

»  Children/youth are unable to protect themselves and stop the abuse.
»  Children/youth are susceptible to force.
»  Children/youth are susceptible to the use of trickery by offenders.
»  Often times, children/youth have no control over their own bodies.
»  All too often, children/youth are unable to make others believe them.

The above factors lead to:

»  anxiety
»  fear
»  shame
»  a sense of inadequacy
»  the need to control situations and others
»  a perception of self as victim
»  identification with the aggressor

Factors That Influence Sexual Abuse Effects Miraculously, not all children or youth molestation victims display signs that something is wrong. FACT:  Between 21% and 36% of sexually abused children will display few or no symptoms (Oates, O'Toole, Lynch, Stern & Cooney, 19941). Why do some victims display a multitude of emotional and behavioural effects, while others display few or none? In spite of few or no outward symptoms, child and youth victims do suffer emotionally. These emotional effects come in varying degrees, depending on the following six factors:   The nature of the relationship between the victim and the offender: the closer the emotional relationship, the greater the emotional trauma.   The age of the child when the abuse began and the duration of the sexual relationship: an ongoing sexual relationship with repeated contacts is generally more traumatic and usually produces more sexual abuse effects than a single contact.   The type of sexual activity the victim is exposed to: sexual acts involving strictly non-contact sexual abuse appears less traumatic than sexual acts that involve contact. It is important to note, however, that trauma and the sexual abuse effects are still very real when any type of sexual abuse occurs. For an excellent discussion written by Colette Dowling, M.S.W. about sexual abuse in school girls, check out www.womens-wellbeing-and-mental-health.com. Colette is an internationally renown lecturer and author of eight books, including her best-sellerThe Cinderella Complex, which has been in print for 25 years.   The degree of physical aggression directed at the victim:violence adds to the trauma of the abuse. Being physically abused, having a mother who is mentally ill, not having someone to confide in, and being socially isolated are significant predictors for childhood sexual abuse (Fleming, Mullen & Bammer, 19972).   The response the victim receives when she/he discloses the abuse: healing is apparent when a disclosure is met with compassion and is followed with effective intervention; if the victim is met with skepticism and accusations, anger, or no response at all when she/he discloses, the sexual abuse effects are compounded.   The availability of a supportive person in the victim's life:a caring, loving, nurturing, and listening person in the victim's life lessens the trauma; a lack of a supportive person intensifies the abuse and leaves the victim feeling even more lonely, helpless, and unworthy.

Emotional and Physical Sexual Abuse Effects:

Molested children suffer many losses, including:

  self-esteem and self-worth

  trust

  childhood, including the opportunity to play and learn

  the opportunity for normal growth and development

  intimacy

  control over his/her body

  normal loving and nurturing

  safety and security

Behavioural Sexual Abuse Effects:

  nightmares, phobias, and regressive behaviours such as thumb-sucking and bed-wetting

  learning problems

  clinging and smothering

  insecurity, which put the child at risk for further abuse and exploitation

  psychosomatic complaints such as stomachaches and headaches

  precocious sexual activity--a young child knows more than they should about sexual activity; child may exhibit seductive behaviour

FACT:  17% of abused children exhibit age inappropriate sexual behaviour (Trocme & Wolfe, 2001, p.28³).

FACT:  Of the sexual abuse effects exhibited, sexualized behaviour is the most consistent indicator of sexual abuse (Cavanagh Johnson et. al., 1995, pp.50-51⁴).

  with young children, a preoccupation with sexual organs of self, parents and others--often this shows itself in language and art

  aggression and bullying behaviours

FACT:  14% of abused children exhibit behaviour problems (Trocme & Wolfe, 2001, p.28⁵).

  sudden changes in eating and/or sleeping habits

  depression and anxiety

FACT:  29% of abuse children exhibit depression or anxiety (Trocme & Wolfe, 2001, p.28⁶).

  refusal to change clothes in front of others

  isolation

  obsessively good behaviour

  obsessed with cleanliness

  relationship problems

FACT:  13% of abused children exhibit negative peer involvement (Trocme & Wolfe, 2001, p.28⁷).

  anti-social behaviour

  unwillingness to participate in social activities

  running away

FACT:  85% of runaways in Toronto have been sexually abused(Conference on Child Victimization & Child Offending, 2000⁸).

  truancy / long absence from school

FACT:  10% of abused children have irregular school attendance (Trocme & Wolfe, 2001, p.28⁹).

  long absence from participation in extracurricular activities

  dissociation--a child's existence is dependent on his/her ability to separate from the pain, which, in the most repulsive cases, may result in multiple personalities

  risky behaviours such as firestarting, stealing and other delinquencies

  animal cruelty

  alcohol and drug abuse

FACT:  According to the Conference on Child Victimization & Child Offending (2000¹⁰), sexual abuse effects on children with a history of molestation reflect that they are seven times more likely to become drug/alcohol dependent

FACT:  In a sexual abuse effects study of 938 adolescents admitted to residential, therapeutic communities for the treatment of substance abuse and related disorders, 64% of the girls and 24% of the boys reported histories of sexual abuse (Hawke, Jainchill, & DeLeon, 2000, pp.35-47¹¹).

  dysfunctional relationships

  avoiding confrontation

  self-harm, including cutting and burning

  paranoid behaviour

FACT:  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is one of the sexual abuse effects that plague sexually abused children and adult survivors of child abuse. Symptoms experienced are similar to those experienced by Vietnam veterans and may include sleep disturbances, anxiety and depression, which negatively impact on their daily psychosocial functioning and for which many seek professional help (Wiehe, 1998, p.50¹²).

  preoccupation with sex

  promiscuous behaviour

  compulsive and aggressive sexual behaviours

  self-destructive sexual behaviour and prostitution

FACT:  98% of female street youth in British Columbia reported being victims of physical or sexual abuse as compared to 32% of female youths in schools. 59% of male street youth reported being victims of physical or sexual abuse as compared to 15% of male youth in schools (Beauvais et al., 2001, p.62¹³).

  in adulthood, sexual dysfunction--avoidance of or phobic reactions to sexual intimacy

  becomes the abuser

FACT:  Studies done by Haywood, Kravitz, Wasyliw, Goldberg and Cavanaugh in 1996 reflect some disturbing sexual abuse effects. The study found that the odds of becoming a child molester were 5.43 times greater for adult male victims of childhood sexual abuse than for adult male non-victims (Lee, Jackson, Pattison, & Ward, 2002, p.88¹⁴).

  attempted and completed suicide

FACT:  Children with a history of sexual molestation are ten times more likely to attempt suicide (Conference on Child Victimization & Child Offending, 2000¹⁵).

Sexual abuse effects on the child or youth are connected to the child/youth's life before, during and after the sexual contact. We must understand that the effects apply every bit as much to the disclosure and intervention as it does to the abuse itself. Sexual abuse effects continue long after the abuse stops.

let's us see the cases

Victim Gender Based on Who Previously Abused the Perpetrator

Gender of Perpetrators' Own Victimizer	Gender of Victim Male or Both	Female Only
Male only	67.5%	32.5%
Female only	6.7%	93.3%

Berkowitz (1993), in a Winnipeg-based study of sexually abused males in treatment groups, found the following rates of perpetration.

Babysitter jailed for sexually assaulting boy

Woman, 40,  handed 2 1/2 years  for multiple sexual encounters

CanadianCRC Editor: Notice the discriminatory wording if the sexual offender is female and the child that was sexually assaulted is male. The use of the words "affair", "relationship", "sexual encounter", "sexual tryst".  Notice that she didn't get jail time. The female judge agreed that the offender should get  2 1/2 years in jail and then gave her time "in the community", effectively no sentence. The female sexual predator also blamed her actions on her ex-husband and the boy victim, a common pattern these days in which female perpetrators of domestic violence are told they are always the victim.

The Chronicle Herald, Halifax, N.S., January 19, 2008, by Jennifer Stewart, Court Reporter

For months Pamela Ruth Collins bonded with the 12-year-old boy she was hired to babysit.

But that’s not all the former Halifax woman was doing.

Ms. Collins, 40, was sentenced Monday to 2½ years in prison for  seducing  the now 15-year-old Halifax boy into  having sex with her  on dozens of occasions between July 1, 2004, and May 20, 2005.   More..

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Quebec woman gets 15 months for having sex with boy when he was 13

Canadian Press, various newspapers and media across Canada, Thursday, March 29, 2007

QUEBEC (CP) - A Quebec woman who  had sex   with a 13-year-old boy has been sentenced to 15 months in prison.

The  relationship  between Julie Dorval, 31, and the boy began after the youth made advances over the Internet. Within about three months they had sex on several occasions. Youth protection services were called after Dorval and the teenager were seen walking hand-in-hand and hugging each other. Dorval pleaded guilty last April to sexual assault.

Prosecutors had been seeking a sentence of at least two years in a federal penitentiary, while the defence suggested a conditional sentence of nine to 12 months.

© The Canadian Press 2007

CanadianCRC editor's note: Notice how in cases in which the adult sexual predator is a female, the articles use words such as above "having sex" or below "having an affair" and not sexual assault.  If this had been a 31 year old male who sexually assaulted a 13 year old female, the sentence is typically more. In addition, sentencing a male perpetrator to at least 2 years in prison would put the prisoner in federal penitentary.